Ah, the honeymoon period. The honeymoon phase is the early part of your relationship when everyone’s jokes are funny, and other couples seem to be a disappointment in comparison. Every song you hear on the radio will be about you. Every relationship has a different duration of the honeymoon phase, but it is true that what happens after the honeymoon is important.
According to Rachel DeAlto, chief dating expert at Match, it’s normal for the honeymoon period to end. It may even be good for long-term relationship health and help people see each other clearly. When the honeymoon phase ends, and you are no longer living in a romantic comedy, you will start to focus on the important things. Healthy communication is one of them.
Less frequent communication, less sex, or fewer romantic gestures could all be signs that the honeymoon period is over. It can also make you feel more at ease being yourself around your partner. You can see that your partner is not perfect, and you don’t feel the need to be. DeAlto says, “To develop a long term, meaningful, and health relationship we need to be able to see eachother clearly and accept their flaws and blunders.” How do you do this intentionally? These tips will help you and your partner maintain a healthy relationship long after the honeymoon period.
Please acknowledge it
DeAlto emphasizes the importance of self-awareness. You may not tell your partner you are no longer in the honeymoon phase, but you might. It would be best if you acknowledged this to yourself. DeAlto says that it is important to recognize that emotions are normal at the end of the honeymoon phase.
Decide what you would like the future of the relationship to be.
Communication Openly
It is a great opportunity to discuss everything with your partner. It is important to set the tone of your communication from the beginning for a long-lasting, healthy relationship. You can communicate your feelings and desires to your partner using positive and clear communication.
Talk About Sex
Why not discuss the more difficult issues while the communication is open? You may have come off your honeymoon high and realized that the sex you are having isn’t quite as good as you would like it to be. Or, perhaps, you have some new fantasies you want to explore. These conversations will help you avoid frustration in the future and may even reignite that spark that was beginning to fade.
Dr. Kristie Overstreet, a clinical sexologist and certified sex therapist, advises that you should always approach the discussion with an open heart, letting go of your ego and remembering everyone is unique. You will never be able to understand your partner’s sexual drive. What they enjoy may not be the same as what you do. Asking for what you want and talking about these issues will lead to great sex.
Prioritize time together
You probably spend a lot of time together in the honeymoon phase without even realizing it. Once you move past that phase, you will start to crave more time for yourself, and you may even decide to leave your relationship bubble in order to spend some quality time with friends. This is completely normal, healthy, and necessary.
Plan activities with your partner when you see this happening. It could be something as simple as watching a movie on the couch and ordering your favorite takeout, or it could be romantic, like making a reservation for a restaurant that you both have been wanting to try. What’s my advice? My advice? If you spent most of your honeymoon in bed, then plan your favorite activities.
Try Something New
Studies show trying new experiences can bring couples closer together. It doesn’t have to mean that you go on extravagant adventures every week. Even a simple cooking class or day trip will help you and your partner bond.
Don’t Panic
DeAlto says that just because the honeymoon phase has ended doesn’t mean that your relationship is over. You may be worried about your sexual life and wondering how to maintain the spark, Or you might be wondering if your relationship is doomed because the honeymoon phase has ended.
You should brush up your communication skills and ask for what you desire. Also, you can try new things.
