There’s no denying it: the year of Taylor Swift is here. From midnights to a tour that was so anticipated, Ticketmaster literally had to move to the Congress floor. The year 2023 is hers. We’re just lucky to be there. My Swiftie heart sank when I heard the news that she and Joe Alwyn, her longtime boyfriend, had officially separated. This is not because true love doesn’t exist or that every word in Lovers was a lie. I did not want her achievements to be overshadowed by the world. I felt sorry for her. Breakups are bad no matter what the circumstances. But dealing with them in front of thousands of people when you’re headlining the biggest tour of all time is a real pain. It’s a lot of heavy shit to use a more appropriate phrase.
Instead of speculating about the reasons, hows, and where, we should learn from this situation and let Taylor Swift be at peace. We can learn from Taylor Swift’s breakup some key lessons about relationships. This will help us deal with our heartbreaks and realize that life doesn’t end if we’re not with the person we thought would be the one for us. Taylor Swift said that it would have been great if Joe Alwyn had been ‘The 1,’ but it is also okay if he wasn’t.
The love you shared is still valid after a breakup.
What are the commonalities between King of My Heart Daylight Sweet Nothing and Invisible Strings (besides being some of Taylor Swift’s god-tier love songs? Joe Alwyn was the inspiration for them. The world is still in shock that a couple so in love for such a length of time could break up. This is a perfectly understandable reaction. I can’t imagine writing, “All these people think that love is a show, but in secret, I would die for your sake” to someone and not marrying them.
It doesn’t mean that the love that they shared wasn’t real or that their time was wasted. It particularly doesn’t mean love should be forgotten. I have literally seen videos on Twitter where people remove the Loveralbum. Even if the relationship ends, especially if it is a long-term one, you will still be able to appreciate all of your love. Look back fondly on the past. Don’t tell yourself that it doesn’t matter. Breakups are not the end of love stories but rather the conclusion. It’s not just me, but I will still happily sing the lyrics to Paper, knowing Taylor meant every word.
Even if you’ve been married for a long time, you may still grow apart.
Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn reportedly dated for six years. This adds to their split’s shock value. The longer you have been together, the more difficult it is to break up. We’ve all cried a lot over three-month flings (while listening to Taylor songs for comfort, may I add). So, going your separate ways after many years can be a difficult pill to swallow. Just because a relationship has lasted a long time does not mean that it will last forever. You don’t need to pass a threshold in order to be immune from a breakup. The world can change at any time for a variety of reasons.
Imagine yourself six years ago. You are the same person today? Most likely not. You could be a totally different person. We change! Healthy relationships allow you to grow and develop as an individual while still sharing your life with someone else. Sometimes, this personal growth may mean growing apart from that person. It’s normal for our values, goals, and needs to change as we age. If your relationship is no longer aligned with these things (this also applies to friendships), then it is not a failure. This shows you have grown as a human being and are true to yourself. This can be seen as a positive.
You are entitled to privacy.
The average woman doesn’t need to worry about the millions of people around the globe giving their opinion on her breakup. We can take a few notes on how Taylor Swift handled the situation. She isn’t. She and Joe have not addressed the news. This is not surprising, as they have always kept their relationship under wraps. It doesn’t matter whether your relationship was low-key or everyone knew that you and your partner were together. It is important to take the time needed to heal and process in privacy. It doesn’t mean that you should isolate yourself or avoid talking to anyone (Taylor is currently on a stadium tour). Do not let the opinions of others stop you from healing.
People will have an opinion, especially if you and your partner were together for a long while. It’s inevitable. Do not let anyone ruin your peace. You’ll be glad you did. Taylor says in the underrated Paris: “Privacy signs on my door, my page, and the entire world.”
While you are healing, you can still feel happy.
It isn’t easy to end a relationship, especially when you have been in it for a long time. Everyone’s healing process is different, but there is one universal truth: you can be happy during the healing process. Taylor’s tour is still ongoing, and many assumed she would put on a front to “pretend” that she was pleased. She’d hide in the shadows when not performing. Nope! Since the news of her breakup, our girl has been seen in NYC, hanging out with friends and shooting music videos. She is also putting on a great show. We don’t really know what is going on in the background, but based on what I have heard, it seems that this is what happened: Yo, You still deserve to enjoy your life while you heal.
Some days will feel unbearable. If you put your energy into loving yourself, your family, the things you enjoy doing, and your friends as much as possible, you will still experience a lot of joy. Taylor Swift once said, “There will be happiness after you.” She was right.
