Virgos can be criticized all you want, but despite my perfectionist tendencies and my ability to plan, I am not afraid to let go and follow the flow. I focus on the present and don’t get ahead of myself. This has both pros and cons. What’s the example? When I first start dating someone, I get so caught up in the excitement that comes with a new relationship that I don’t think about what might happen if I meet their friends and dislike them.
I know that I am not the only one who has ever been in this situation. You want these people to leave your partner’s company because you hate them. You don’t want them to be separated because nobody can ever get between you and the girls.
You’ve come to the right place if you want to know how to handle your partner’s enemies. These tips will help you navigate through this difficult situation and keep your relationship and peace intact. Continue reading to find out more.
How do you handle your other’s friends when you can’t stand them
Find out what makes you angry about them
You may hate someone because they get under your skin. Everyone feels this way, but you should try to understand why. Write down what you dislike about the friends of your partner. You may not like their lifestyle, or they could remind you of someone in your past. Or, perhaps their vibe is off-putting and makes you uncomfortable.
These friends may also bring out an aspect of your partner that you wouldn’t otherwise see. You may be worried that they are bad influences or your partner behaves differently when around these friends. You may be misdirecting these emotions and focusing them on the friends of your partner when you should be aiming them at them.
Discuss your feelings with your partner.
It would be best if you had a candid conversation with your partner after determining exactly what you dislike about them. It would be best if you tried to have this conversation when both of you are in a good mood and can hear each other out. (Read: not right after a stressful day at work.) This can give you a better understanding of why your partner is friends with these people and help them to understand you.
Talking about your worries is a good way to show respect. You can lower your partner’s defenses by using phrases such as “I feel …” or beginning your sentences with “I.” Remind them that your intentions are pure and you love them.
Get to know your friends better
plan a date with your partner and a friend of theirs, even though they say that three is a crowd. If you live together, invite them to your home or meet for drinks or coffee. You will get to know your partner better, and you might be pleasantly surprised. Your partner will also act as a buffer to help you relax and feel more comfortable.
Ask your partner if they have anything in particular with the friend you’re going to meet. You’ll find it easier to communicate with someone if you can find a common interest.
Please keep an open mind and accept them.
You have to accept that your partner will make the right decisions regarding who they want in their lives. This is what you should do. It would be best if you learned to take and live with the fact that you will see these friends occasionally. Be open-minded and try to approach these encounters with an open mind. You will have more fun and maintain your relationship, as you won’t be upset by their presence.
How do you protect your relationship when you hate your other’s friends
Set healthy boundaries, not absolutes
It would be best if you didn’t make your partner choose between you or their friends. Even if they choose you, you will still cause friction in your relationship. Set healthy limits for your partner’s friend. You can decide when you both feel comfortable around friends, when it’s just you and your partner, and when they should be left alone. You will put a healthy distance between you and those people that you dislike, and your partner will not have to sacrifice anyone.
Please encourage them to go and see their friends on their own
They may unconsciously distance themselves from friends if they care about you. While this may be great for you right now, they could end up resenting your actions down the road. Please encourage them to hang out with their friends without you when they invite them. In the meantime, you can go out with your girlfriends or take care of yourself. Space is good for you, and friends are important no matter what your relationship status.
Give them space, but don’t let it affect your relationship
Try to avoid letting your partner’s friend live rent-free in your relationship. You should definitely talk to your partner if something bothers you. But, other than that, don’t bring them up frequently. There’s a right time to let them go and move on.
